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Libra New Moon September 30

Ah, Libra—the sign of balance, equality, harmony, and loving partnerships!
As the Moon meets the Sun at 8 degrees Libra, this Libra New Moon bestows upon us all an excellent opportunity to do some work around the theme of relationships!
Libra is known to be a sign that has great difficulty making decisions. That’s because those who carry a good deal of Libra archetypal energy have a knack for seeing both sides of a situation.
Ergo, they are capable of understanding, sympathizing, and potentially empathizing with those who express two different sides of an argument. This can make it difficult for one who carries Libra energy to choose.
I VS. THOU
In addition, Libra energy is known as one that does not feel whole without a partner. Thus the sign’s tendency—because it is about balance, fairness, and peace—is to compromise, sometimes too much, for the sake of their partnerships.
On the flip side, however, positive Libra energy revolves around creativity, compromise, and negotiation. Many who carry Libra energy make excellent negotiators, diplomats, peacemakers, artists, etc., precisely because they can see so clearly opposite sides of the same dilemma and sense the opportunity for peace in the middle.
This Libra New Moon–which brings together the Moon and the Sun in the sky (as do all New Moons)—carries with the potential for an alignment of the heart and mind. This metaphysically portends that an ultimately successful “make love, not war” philosophy is possible.
LIBRA NEW MOON & JUPITER IN LIBRA: WHOLE LOTTA LIBRA
All roads may seem to lead to partnership this year, and the fact is that we are entering a whole new era of relationships.
However, this news isn’t necessarily all sweetness and light, as this Libra New Moon might otherwise seem to indicate. Rather, combined with Jupiter’s journey through the sign of Libra until October 12, 2017, the message is that we must watch out for Libra’s potential pitfalls.
“Relationships are only as good as any individual continues to grow in ever-evolving independence and inter-dependence,” according to Kim Marie Weimer of the Evolutionary Astrology Network, in a recent lecture on the topic of Jupiter in Libra.
While we all have before us the potential “to achieve new equalities—racial, gender, economic, religious, and the balancing of self vs. other(s),” we also must watch for the distortions in our partnerships, which may include “selfishness, extremes, war, patriarchal grabs, and violence,” Weimer explains.
Crucial to the message of this Libra New Moon is how self-reliance and honesty with oneself promote our ability to relate to others as equals and to forge alliances free from power struggles, disillusionment, and confusion. Weimer suggests that Jupiter in Libra will help us instead to recognize “we are all in it together, honoring self-needs [as] equal to another’s needs.”
LIBRA NEW MOON HEART/MIND ALIGNMENT OPPORTUNITY
The Libra New Moon’s separation from Jupiter bestows a kiss of luck upon the new couple, who not only receive this anointment from the great benefic Jupiter, but a boost from their approaching sextile to Saturn as well…
This sextile to Saturn is what presents us with our opportunity, as a sextile is always an aspect that can increase our ability to seize the day–as long as we’re cognizant that this is so.
Saturn is always about maturation, and maturity often comes only at the expense of hard work. Whether that work entails learning from one’s mistakes en route to following a pathway toward success, or simply putting one’s shoulder to the wheel and pushing it uphill, there is always exertion involved.
The Libra New Moon’s sextile to Saturn portends an easier route, or flow if you will, toward that maturation. In other words, you have the wind behind your sails as you attempt to bring your heart and mind into alignment vis-à-vis the subject of your relationships.
The biggest fly in the ointment becomes the Libra New Moon’s square to Mars, along with the red planet’s square to Jupiter as well…a little self-discipline wouldn’t hurt, as Venus-ruled Libra New Moon might otherwise be prone to a bit of excess born of frustration with any particular partnership.
Seeing red might bring about a confrontation with another that’s long overdue, but anger for the sake of itself will not solve any long term problems. Be mindful that it pays to look at where you’ve been compromising too much for the sake of partnership and of blaming another for letting the issue(s) go on for too long…
This Libra New Moon ask us to get creative in finding the kind of middle ground that won’t leave us frustrated and angry in the long-term…
LIBRA NEW MOON OPPORTUNITY: FALL IN LOVE—WITH YOURSELF!
Those of us who dream of soul mates and miraculous partnerships made in heaven, it’s usually good to remember that all relationships represent parts of ourselves that we attract to ourselves in the form of another.
These are the bits and pieces of our personalities about which we are unconscious–and one of the best roads toward consciousness is when we can see ourselves through the eyes of another.
To be made more fully aware of who we really are is the true gift of any partnership—be it a relationship with a significant other, our family members, friends, colleagues, or higher up authority figures.
So this Libra New Moon reminds us that it’s time to start anew and plant a seed of loving oneself first before one can truly love another. It also reminds us that every relationship has a lesson for us because it teaches us more about ourselves.
The issue of whether or not relationships are meant to last is often a moot point disregarded by those hell bent on finding their true soul mate.
This Libra New Moon’s quincunx to Neptune and the South Node in Pisces indicates that although relationships are important, adjustments must be made to bring your attention back down to earth and to the most impactful relationship you can possibly have: the one with yourself!
THIS is the partnership that needs the most attention, because cultivating self-love first allows you to see this love reflected back to you in the eyes (and behavior!) of another.
In turn, this kind of loving partnership with another brings you the opportunity to continually learn about yourself, grow in consciousness, and love yourself even more…
Here’s a fun video to help remind you to keep the focus on YOU within relationship when you might otherwise distort your view of a partnership and blame (or love!) only the other…remember it’s possible to start evaluating your relationship with yourself FIRST and then move onward and outward to others:
Hailee Steinfeld’s I Love Myself!
Namaste…
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Ah, Valentine’s Day…blech…never been one of my favorite holidays. Just an excuse to sell a lot of flowers and chocolates. Just an excuse for a lot of people to make a lot of promises they don’t mean…
Over the years I’ve developed the philosophy that loosely centers around the theme: F#*K that S@%T!
It’s for all those sheeple who need to go along to get along, to prove to the outside world their love for another by showering them with gifts, perfumes, and a fat-laden, high cholesterol dinner, topped off–of course–by the latest Zagat #1-rated restaurant’s latest dessert, whether it be chocolate mousse, crème broulee, tiramisu…whatever…
“Sometimes you’ve just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you.” ~ Dr. Phil McGraw
To me, though, Valentine’s Day has become the period where we can learn to love ourselves. Wouldn’t it be great if we could simply take ourselves out to dinner, buy the roses, perfume, and chocolates for ourselves?
And why not? If we follow through the theory that everyone around us–meaning everyone with whom we are in relationship–is just an outer manifestation of our inner energies, then the love that comes to us on Valentin’s Day is really simply an expression in the outer world about how we feel about ourselves internally…
So, wouldn’t it be wonderful if, this Valentine’s Day, whether you have a partner or not, you practice a little more self-love?
Now, I’m not talking about the kind of self-love that says “it’s all about me, you know…” I’m not talking about the kind of self-love that needs for another to prove their love through expensive gifts (diamond ring, anyone?) or other over-the-top displays of affection.
No, I’m talking about how we treat ourselves. If the axiom “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is true—when you really go deep about it—than how you treat yourself is really what will come back at you from the outside in the form of how others treat you.
So why not start the greatest love affair you’ve ever had, right here at home, in your very own heart. After all, how can it hurt?
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddha
What can it do…let’s see…what would be so terrible? Oh, yeah, you change up relationships from those in which the other person disrespects you to ones in which they become respectful? Hmmm…
You change up relationships in which the other person criticizes you? Hmmm…
You change up relationships in which the other person judges you, and makes you feel small, doubtful, less than? Yeah, those are relationships we want to hang on to…
But, should you change your mind about hanging onto those relationships, it doesn’t mean you have to cease engaging in them altogether. What it does mean is that there’s some change that needs to take place.
Ah, this brings me to another point. Many of us involved in significant other relationships tend to put the burden on the other person to do the changing.
Huh? Don’t you know that if you want something done right you have to do it yourself?
Think about this: if all of your relationships are merely mirrors of your insides turned outside, or your internal energies projected outside of yourself, then what if you started to make changes internally.
Doesn’t it logically follow then that your relationships will begin to change?
Doesn’t mean it’s a deal breaker. Although it’s worth thinking about: once one starts to kindle the fire of self-love and self-worth then one begins to be less self-judgmental, less self-critical, less doubtful, less small, and less less than...
No, I’m not saying to build a fortress around your heart! I’m saying to pamper your heart, treat it as though it really matters–because of how someone else feels about it, but because of how you feel about it…
So, back to Valentine’s Day.
Eh, I’m tepid about it…still. I see the other side. I try not to be jaded.
I wholeheartedly endorse those who are involved in healthy relationships, be they short term or long term. You guys are great role models, and thank you for that!
However, if it’s a lifelong romance you’re lookin’ for, then look no further than your own mirror…
Namaste…
Here’s a little song I’d like to share with anyone like me, who has her doubts about the true meaning of Valentine’s Day, who’s been in relationships that have gone sour, or who simply feels a general kind of “F-You” to climbing on that commercial bandwagon in order to prove to the rest of the world that “yes, I am loved.”
Warning: graphic language, proceed at your own risk!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_1pUqmaPsFA
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Libra New Moon October 12

How Intimate Can You Go?
The Libra New Moon ushers in roughly two weeks during which we are presented with the opportunity to go deep — about our partnerships — the most important one of which is our relationship to SELF..
With Mercury in Libra until November 2, and Venus in Virgo until November 8, this Libra New Moon provides us the archetypal energy necessary to delve seriously into how our partnerships mirror back to us our very own energies.
However, what’s most important to understand about Libra’s archetypal energy is that it’s always inherently aware of “the other.”
This awareness necessarily leads to understanding “as within, so without,” which in turn allows us to see our true selves through the energetic makeup of someone else…
And it’s our acceptance or rejection of the energies of those around us — and with whom we choose to partner — that tells the tale of true enlightenment!
That’s What She Said…
So what about when “the other” projects back to you stuff you don’t like?
Do you continue to try to change him or her? Or do you assume the only way to relate is to let them walk all over you?
Common sense dictates that many of us fall somewhere in between these two extremes, and that our choices vary throughout our lives, depending on our age and stage.
Transiting Uranus opposite this New Moon may lead to sudden departures in relationships, or — better yet — sudden realizations and aha! moments where all was cloudy but NOW all is clear…
These revelations, regardless of how and about whom they manifest, are meant to teach you more about yourself…
As we move forward toward our highest karmic destiny — which is to know ourselves so that we may love and accept ourselves for who we really are — it benefits us to realize that we discover exactly who we are by using others as our mirror.
And instead of alternately being horrified, hurt, saddened, embarrassed, enraged, or (fill in the blank), we may recognize instead that the words and actions of others stem from within — ourselves!
While this is such a bitter pill for many of us to swallow, swallow it we must if we are interested in growth in consciousness.
Anything that helps provide us with greater knowledge about ourselves in turn allows us to feel compassion.
And when we show compassion to ourselves, we manifest it out in the world in the form of others capable of expressing such compassion back to us…
“So then, the relationship of self to the other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.”
~ Alan Watts
Think about it: This makes hatred virtually impossible!
When you truly “get” that your shadow side is repressed and then projected out onto others and comes back to you in the form of their words and actions, then you understand why acceptance & love for all beings is important:
Namely because when you accept others for who and what they are, you recognize THEIR energies as your own…
And when this happens, you consciously (or unconsciously!) accept (love, forgive, have compassion for) yourself…
Namaste…
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